On behalf of all of us “friends” I would like to say I’m sorry. We don’t know what we are doing. We don’t always know how to be there for you. Often times we feel overwhelmed and afraid that we will do the wrong thing so we do nothing at all. We forget that doing nothing is “doing something” to you, and it is definitely the wrong thing to do.
Forgive us as we try to say nice things and say things that hurt instead.
Forgive us as we may for a moment forget that day that changed your world forever.
Forgive us when we don’t know what to say and so we say nothing.
Forgive us for the times when you needed a hug and we didn’t give you one.
Forgive us for the times when you needed us to call and we forgot.
Forgive us for the times when we expect you to act like nothing happened.
Forgive us for trying to tell you or teach you how you should grieve.
Forgive us for all the times we have not been good friends.
I am sorry. I have not always been the friend I should be to my widowed friend. I know that many others have not been good friends to you.
I am trying. I am failing a lot, but I am trying to be a better friend.
Know that even in our silence, we have not forgotten you. We may not know how to show it, but we love you, and we are trying….